Tutors for Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
Individuals with PDA often struggle with traditional classroom settings due to their difficulty in handling demands and expectations, so a one-to-one tutor can provide a more tailored and flexible learning environment that suits the individual's needs.
What Is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) ?
Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is a term used to describe a profile of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) characterised by an extreme avoidance of everyday demands and requests.
Individuals with PDA often exhibit a strong need to be in control and may resist or refuse to follow instructions, rules, or expectations imposed by others. They may display manipulative or socially inappropriate behaviours as a way of avoiding demands, such as lying, tantrums, or extreme outbursts.
It’s important to note that PDA is not officially recognised, but it is often considered within the broader Autism Spectrum.
Symptoms of PDA may include:
- Excessive Demand Avoidance: Individuals with PDA tend to avoid demands and may react with anxiety, anger, or aggression when faced with requests or expectations.
- Surface Sociability: Despite their avoidance of demands, individuals with PDA may have good social skills and appear socially outgoing, although their interactions may be superficial or manipulative.
- Lability of Mood: Their mood can fluctuate rapidly, often in response to perceived demands or changes in their environment.
- Social Manipulation: Individuals with PDA may use socially manipulative behaviours, such as lying or charming others, as a way of avoiding demands.
- Resistance to Routine: They may struggle with established routines and may resist attempts to impose structure or predictability in their lives.
Would a Tutor Help My Child with PDA?
Yes, a one-to-one tutor can be very beneficial for someone with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Individuals with PDA often struggle with traditional classroom settings due to their difficulty in handling demands and expectations from multiple authority figures and peers. A one-to-one tutor can provide a more tailored and flexible learning environment that suits the individual’s needs.
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Qualified Tutors Specialising in Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
Children with a PDA profile often learn best with adults who understand that their avoidance isn’t about refusal, it’s about anxiety, autonomy, and feeling safe. PDA is often described as a persistent drive for autonomy, meaning the child has an intense need to feel in control of themselves, their environment, and the expectations placed on them. When that sense of autonomy feels threatened, even simple requests can trigger overwhelm.
Meet our tutors
Celena
Hitchin, Herts
a positive mindset and using mindfulness techniques within my lessons support the learners development.”
Celena
Hitchin, Herts
An Advisory Teacher for children with additional needs with over 20 years’ experience in Middle, Secondary and University teaching. MPhil, MSC, PGCE and QTLS.
Age Range:
5-16
Availability:
In Person
Online
Rate:
£110 per hour
Sophie V
East Sussex and surrounding areas, London (please enquire)
My students are the key stakeholder in their education, and I empower them to discover what and how they’d like to learn.”
Sophie V
East Sussex and surrounding areas, London (please enquire)
Autism Consultant, advising and training those in the public sector in supporting neurodivergent individuals, with 8 years teaching experience in Primary, University and Outdoor/Forest education.
Age Range:
5-16
Availability:
In Person
Online
Rate:
£110 per hour
Jacqueline R
Christchurch inc Bournemouth, Dorset and the New Forest
Fundamental to my work as an effective teacher and tutor has been my ability to build positive, trusting relationships with the children in my care.”
Jacqueline R
Christchurch inc Bournemouth, Dorset and the New Forest
Highly skilled teacher with 24 years of experience teaching primary school children. In the last six years, I have specialised in teaching children with Special Educational Needs.
Age Range:
0-7
Availability:
In Person
Online
Rate:
£110 per hour
How Can I Support a Child with PDA?
Supporting a child with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) requires a combination of understanding, patience, flexibility, and specialised strategies.
Firstly educate yourself, and learn as much as you can about PDA to understand the unique challenges the child faces. Establish trust showing patience and non-judgement. Reduce demands and offer choices. Celebrate the child’s strengths and talents using praise and positivity.
If you need more help to support your child with Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), book a FREE consultation or contact our experienced team:
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